Beauty School Bothers

So this does apply primarily to being in a school full of women and feminine men, but this can be applied anywhere.

Women need to stop feeling so insecure about themselves and lashing out at other women. It is so ridiculous and so immature. I thought that these childish antics would end as women graduated from high school and entered out into the real world-but, from what I have observed, is that women still bring that "High School Mean Girl Mentality" into the real world and can be even more child like. Not to mention, it is really petty seeing grown women gossiping about a "friend", a coworker, or even a classmate just because they are so insecure in their own bodies that they have to bring down another women just to feel validated.

I'm not going to lie and say that I haven't done this, but I really do try  to be more conscious of what I choose to talk about and who I am around. Everyone should just be happy with themselves. Honestly, every one is beautiful and unique and what isn't great about that? Just because someone looks differently than you, with whatever thought you may be thinking about them, doesn't make them any less beautiful or validated. And if you're doing that to women, do not be surprised when karma comes to bite you right in the booty.

Also how some women are just so needy and self centered and wanting of men's attention. And I get it, having a man attracted to you is flattering, yes, but it's not the most important thing in the world. A male's opinion of you really means nothing compared to you're own opinion of yourself. And when I had my guy friend come in today to get a massage and seeing how all these women immediately started becoming infatuated with him really disgusted me and embarrassed me.

They were talking in such a vulgar and immature way. Saying how "nice his ass looked" and what his name was and how old he was. And most of these women either have boyfriends and kids or are married with kids. It honestly just disgusted me as I was being pressed for questions. Just how did it become that women feel like every man in the universe has to be so focused on them solely for the purpose of feeling good about themselves? And why use such terms about male's body parts in such a nasty way. They made the body just seem like an object.

One of my friends was like, "I just want to massage men now. I like their bodies better and I hate women." It's like, "Sweetheart, stop it. This may be why you have such insecurities about the relationships in your life. Stop it." I love her like a sister, but it just really urked me when she said that and I knew that it was because she loves the attention. It's so sad.

I am just becoming really bothered by more things I am seeing, hearing, reading, and experiencing. This really makes me feel almost disgusted by my own gender in general. And I know that not all women are like this, and I truly appreciate the beautiful women that are not, but how the majority of women are going is really disturbing and inappropriate and are setting up horrible role model material for younger women.

Dating 101

I hope everyone who is dealing with snow is doing ok. Be careful and stay warm!

So I posted a video up a few days ago called Dating 101 (Remake): appealing to the 5 Senses. My inspiration was from one of the first YouTuber's I ever started watching. And I loved what she had to say and what she wanted to do for people watching her videos. She was a curvier woman and I guess that's why I felt comfort in her.

I was heavy growing up. So seeing a curvy woman who was so confident with herself really inspired me to have some confidence in myself, especially when it came to men. The only thing that I did not really admire about her videos was that she did all this specifically for men. And I'm not saying you shouldn't be sexy for your man, you can, but you should be ding it for you as well.

Now that I look back on it, my soul priority for achieving self-confidence, was through the approval of men for my physical self. It was bad enough that I wanted to get men's approval, but it was even worse that I went about it in a physical and sexual sense. I just had such low self esteem at the time that I used sexual appeal as my advantage.

Sex will always be in. It will always be the "it girl". And it's so unfortunate that society and the media and people have placed it at such a high standard that people need to give in order to achieve something or someone. It's even worse when people pray on victims because of these animal needs that they let get so out of hand.

So this is just a one video that I may start a collection out of. Hoping to maybe inspire some females into feeling better about themselves!<3

Sorry the picture of the video made me look so silly!!

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=82RwGMf_tYg&feature=youtu.be

The Dog Call

It's always flattering when you hear a male do that long and slow whistle when they see you and you know that you look good. It is flattering, but sometimes it can be overused and annoying.

It is flattering. It's always flattering when someone compliments you on something, whether it be a physical characteristic or a mental one. And it's nice to give them to someone, to make someone else feel good about something they possess. But when it comes to males, I think the whistling thing can be over used.

I try not to over think it, and with the mind I have, what I do not want usually prevails when it comes to my mind, There's a saying that goes, "Don't whistle at me, I ain't a dog." and I can't help but remember that every time it happens. It happens a lot and it's usually just guys interested in the physical attributes a woman carries and how she carries herself-strong, sure, and in-control-WHICH IS HOW SHE SHOULD BE.  And it usually, in my experience, is sketchy looking males that drool at the pants a girl is wearing or the way her shirt clings to her chest and it's like, "Really? You're going to behave like you're still in High School?"

Where are the men? The one's that are polite creatures and leave all the promiscuity behind doors and to their imagination. The men that know how to treat a woman and respect her and actually come up to her to start a conversation to get to know her instead of looking at her, imagining to get to know her in bed? It really frustrates me, and maybe it's just me who thinks like this. Everyone learns things differently, but my mother--my best friend and beautiful role model--taught me how to behave when it comes to men.

It makes me laugh, thinking of my past and how boy crazy I was. How I always wanted attention from boys--negative or positive--and would literally chase after them. I swear, so many older women were so worried about me, and I'm sure I would be, too, if I were in there shoes. And it's so funny know because I'm with a man that I actually really care about and who treats me right. He had to be taught a few things first, but he knows what I tolerate and what I don't.

But some things just won't change, but as women, we can decide what we will accept for a man. But if all a man sees you is as an object, know that you are so so much more. You are a beautiful princess who deserves to be with a prince who will know how to treat her.

"It's beauty that captures your attention, it's personality that captures your heart."
-Anastasia